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Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Jealous Technology

Are You a Jealous Person? For the most part, I'm not. I have been through those stages of life where I was insanely jealous and did whatever it took to make myself look "good enough" to get whatever it was that someone else was getting. And, yes, I've had those feelings of wanting to hold on to something so tight that it couldn't possibly get away from me. But now, not so much. I'm confident. Secure. I like what I have and need nothing more. I don't mind if someone else has a nicer home, more money, or a better body. I mean, I wouldn't say "no" to any of those things. But I'll let them enjoy them. And I don't mind it if my LoverBoy goes out without me or has friends that are not my friends too. I am 100% sure that he loves me. And I him. I'm happy.

Do You Think We Spend Too Much Time With Technology? iPhones, iPods, iPads, Macs, PCs, Facebook, Twitter, Blogger, Texting, Emailing, WordPress, FlickR, and and and and. I love it all, believe me. And I use my iPhone with just as much of a grin on my face as the next guy. But I've had the feeling of possibly declaring myself 100% technology free for, oh say, one day....or something like that. Turn off the laptop and mobile phone and leave them turned off. Just to be sure that I'm still sort of in touch with nature, the world, the blue sky, the dirty ground, and the voices around me. I've just observed far too many folks with their faces planted into their Smart Phones while the rest of the group chatted it up and enjoyed one another's company. And there are also friends who actually sort of "hide" behind technology. For escape. For security. It's easy to do. It requires no face-to-face contact or relationship skills. It's easy to say things, do things, even be things when no one else is there to act as a sounding board. Just a thought.....

15 comments:

Geoff said...

Jealousy is a monster that can grow if left unchecked. I love what you said about being confident enough to let others enjoy their good fortune and still be happy with what you have.

Also you really hit the nail on the head (so to speak) about hiding behind technology. I do it to an extent as well, and it's a bad habit.

Lemuel said...

I spend way to much time behind (or is it before?) a computer. I confess that it helps me hide from the world around me, but it connects me with another world.

Stephen said...

I don't do JEALOUSY...I mean I have experienced it in my life, so I know the sensation, but I just don't do it, including sexual jealousy.

I rarely use my phone & I would never talk on it while walking or biking, or on the MAX...
but, I am addicted to blogging, including yours, young man.

anne marie said...

answers to questions (1) no and (2) yes.

I agree with lemuel that the computer connects me to another world.

I have a computer only - no cell phone, or any of the other whizbangs or accounts. and that's just fine with me!

Rob Inukshuk said...

Jealousy - just not me. I've seen it in many people and it's not nice. I want stuff, sure, but I don't want what somebody else has - like you I'm happy for them and hope they enjoy it.

I have also learned that we need very little to be happy, just as long as we know what it is that makes us happy. On that note, I spend too much time on my laptop, but that's the only techie thing I use to excess. Smart phone is seldom used other than as a camera and occasional phone. Of course there is my love affair with the new dishwasher, but that's under control....

christopherc said...

I think it i s far too easy to retreat behind technology and deny the world one's perky, quirky perspective. We have to take time to say I need you away from the computer and iPhone around here every once in a while to have time to just be together.

Rick said...

I think a tech-free day is a great idea. We should all practice it once in awhile -- maybe make it a national holiday. You're right. People love hiding behind it, especially the younger generation.

Good for you for not being jealous.

RAD said...

nope not a jealous person and nope I dont think I personally spend too much time on tech...I know so many others that do..Moderation is key!

Bridgeout said...

I love technology (like Kip... HA!) ... but... I also couldn't live with out the flesh and blood face to face.
Lemuel has a good point about connecting with another world...
food for thought...

Ur-spo said...

I am usually not a jealous person. I have to watch envy though.

Other than my laptop, I hardly have any techie stuff. I would be content with two cans with string connecting them.

Sean said...

Technology is a tool. How it is wielded determines whether it is a positive or negative thing. Without technology, I would not have met other bloggers, made some of the friends I have, been able to keep in touch with friends and family long distance or see, hear and experience half the stuff I have because of having access to it. No, it shouldn't take the place of human interaction, but I think it can enhance it if used properly. Glass half full, I guess.....

I don't consider myself a jealous person, although I've had moments of jealousy. It's an emotion and we have all felt it from time to time, even if we insist we haven't. The question isn't whether you feel jealous, it's whether jealousy informs your decision and behavior. We can't choose how we feel, we an only choose how to deal with those emotions and what's behind them. I do agree that the best way to combat those feelings of jealousy towards what you don't have is to focus on the joy for what you do.

tornwordo said...

I think jealousy and insecurtity are intrinsically intertwined.

Technology free day is a movement we should start!

pdxbator said...

when you and your honey come up to our cabin - there's no electricity, no cell service. It is a great break from it all.

CJ/Rick said...

Cleansing is beneficial. No tech for a day would be a good start.

annie said...

yes, i spend lots of time on my phone. moreso now that i have my nifty new phone. that, however, makes it that much easier to dive into the Net. i use it for positive things too, such as communicating with you and blair. so one whole day without it or my nifty new laptop??? yikes! then i might have to spend time actually talking to family!