Duck and Cover -- The Closet Is a Dark Place to Be

Well well now. It's all become a little more clear. If you aren't "in the loop" in this here blogospheric atmocosmic world of ours, there is this little story that's recently come to light regarding Nicky Cooper formerly of Cooper's Corridor and, more recently, of Nico's Niche. Nicky lives in Prince George, British Columbia, is gay, 26 years old, and raising two adopted sons who needed a place to live. A good father, horribly caring person, and beautiful writer. I know that many of you already know this twisted story. We had emailed frequently and had planned on hooking up when he came to Portland to attend some sort of forestry conference late last October. He never called. So, when I found out that I could get to Prince George with relative ease, I thought it would be grand to make a trip up to see the boys and get to meet this amazing human being --full of caring and compassion. I emailed and ask him if he thought a visit would work out. No answer. The blog posts became fewer and fewer. The emails lessened. And then, the story broke. It is outlined in detail at Joe.My.God., the Farmboyz, and Sweet/Salty. You owe it to yourself to take a few minutes to read each of their stories.

Suffice it to say that it's a little weird. And sad. Along with disappointing, maddening, and even some anger. Bottom line, though, is sad for him. The lies, the cover up, the inability to be honest and truthful. But, before I point too many fingers, I'm afraid that we've all been there in one form or another at one time or another. Hopefully, we're still not. But, alas, some are. I have emailed him again. Here's some of what I shared: "I have no idea the real story. And, honestly, it's not of much interest to me. Whoever you are, whatever journey you're on, and wherever you end up, I wish you wellness and happiness. Take good care." And I mean that. Not only to him, but to each of you.

Heading Out of the Bathroom and Back Into the Closet

(If you are turned off by sexually explicit words or slang terms, read no further.)

Don't miss this editorial. While in Orlando the other day, Sorted Lives and I were discussing what it was that made a gay man gay or what made a straight man straight. Is Larry Craig really gay? Or a straight man just wanting his dick sucked? Does it matter who sucks a guy off? Seriously, if the room was dark and there were, say, a woman, a straight man, and a gay guy sucking you off, would you know the difference? And would it matter who it was that got you off? Are there gay guys that have had straight ones suck them off? Yup. Straight guys that have had gay ones suck them off? Yup. Did it change their sexual preference? Maybe. Maybe not. And does it turn a straight guy gay if he gets it on with a gay dude? Or the other way around? Not necessarily. It's all about the closet in many cases. Dark, quiet, alone. Just needing it worked over. And, many times, it doesn't matter who.

(More) Hypocrisy of the (Well-Known) Saints

One of the largest right-wing evangelical Christian churches in our country lost its senior pastor today after a gay escort came forward to say that he had sexual relations with Pastor Ted Haggard at the 14,000-member New Life Church in Colorado Springs. Happening not once, but over three years. Nice. Real nice. Haggard is one of the most vile opponents of gays along with fellow cronie, and equally hateful, Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family. Dobson struggled to come to Haggard's defense and rescue the hypocritcal pervert. Can't you just see him waving his hands in this air at his Sunday services...the air thick with the praise music from the higher-than-thou orchestra and singers.....sweat pouring from his brow...right hand holding the made-for-television-broadcasts Bible up in the air (you know, the Bible with the shiny sparkling edges so that the lights can pick up on it) and spewing his poor, watered-down, untrue, made up version of how God hates the gays. Having had much experience in this type of church and with this type of pastor, and having been an unfortunate prodigy of how to say one thing with one side of your mouth and then do something else with the other side, I SAY ENOUGH. I have spent hundreds of hours on the soft padded pews in churches all across the globe. Always thinking, wondering, crying, questioning. Wondering where Jesus was in all of this...not. So, good luck Mr. Haggard et. al. I used to look up to your type, admiring, striving to be like. God, I'm glad that I was saved from that. (Reminds me of the bumper sticker: "God, save me from your followers"...and with good reason.) Looks like while all of us perverted gays, with our "agenda," were doing our best to keep our noses clean so that possibly you self-righteous types might view us more accordingly....you were climbing in between the sin-laden sheets of cover-up, deceit, and (again) hypocrisy. How dare you. Jesus is far from you and your message and your followers. Thankfully. There is so much to be done.....you know, feeding the poor, taking care of those who are less fortunate...doing the things that Jesus asked of us. It's OK, don't you worry about it....we'll take care of it while you're off doing unmentionables with your gay buddy. By the way, how much does a sleeze-bag hotel charge by the hour now? Oh, and as long as we're asking, was the dude at least cute? Oh, and say now, how are the wife and kids? Tell them hi from all of us.

http://www.towleroad.com/2006/11/gay_escort_clai.html

(Thanks to Andy Towle over at Towelrod for the link.)

Here's another called Rick Santorum's Republican Child Molesters. It's at http://www.armchairsubversive.com It'll give you real good idea of where our family values and morals party is headed......you know, sort of a warm and cozy feeling inside when you realize that good Christian Republicans are helping out our nation's children. Talk about "terrorists"...they are right here amongst us!