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Thursday, July 19, 2007

Do You Ever Get Tired?


Do you ever get tired of no please and thank you? Of honking horns in anger? Rolling of eyes in disgust? Fast cars in a hurry to go nowhere? Flippant remarks to fellow human beings? Arrogance that demands pleasing of self? Not speaking when you're spoken to? Cigarette butts tossed out of car windows? Children who scream and yell in public places and nothing is done about it? Trash left behind without regard? Speeding in and out of traffic to be the first? "Telling" others instead of "asking"? Blaming others instead of yourself? Noise, yelling, talking loudly, noise pollution? Groups or individuals demanding their own way at the expense of others? Money spent without regard or discretion? Tossing out half-finished expensive gourmet coffees? Children not being taught right from wrong or etiquette by adults who don't know any better? Lack of simplicity in home, social, and world affairs? Assumptions drawn too fast because we want fast conclusions to complicated matters? Of children, or adults, who are ill-prepared to fend, provide, and take care of themselves in this big world?

It scares the hell out of me sometimes. The worst part? Sadly, I'm afraid I speak from experience. I am worn out sometimes of making my way through this place we call our world, our home. I'm exhausted. I've developed a horribly cynical, stilted view of the sea of humanity. Suddenly, even violently, the fingers you are pointing are stretched forth -- outward -- in guilt and hope for self preservation. For I am little better.

27 comments:

Doug said...

I see and feel the same. Others act despicably, as do I at times.

Anonymous said...

I have a real problem with most kids these days and their sense of entitlement. they demand everything, for nothing, are lazing and have absolutely no work ethic ( go to any store these days and ask for assistance if you don't believe me). My Nephews and hopefully my kids, will be much better trained / educated as to the proper ways of doing things amd what is required of tehm to make it in this world. call it the immigrant work ethic, but someone needs to instill it in them.

Dave2 said...

Unintentional rudeness doesn't bother me as much as it should. INTENTIONAL rudeness, however, is grating on me more and more with each passing day. Why why why do people work so hard at being assholes?

Anonymous said...

Beautifully honest post.

I used to feel that way too. I finally saw all the love around me, and I hope you can too :)

Brad said...

I never get tired, I just keep moving.

Nik-in-Paris said...

Beautiful post my friend, I understand how you feel.

It makes me thankful for what I have around me...

daveincleveland said...

kids are rude today, people don't thank you for letting them out in traffic, in my business, (auto service at dealership level) i get called every name in the book when they don't get what they want, even my own son, who is now 25, expects, thinks its coming to him and i too get very tired of it..great post buddy

Sorted Lives said...

If only you could see what I deal with on a daily basis. I blame the parents because these children are a product of their environment.

Just yesterday, Spider and I were in the Gay Publix and a cashier was mouthing off and shaking her weave to a manager. I just shook my head. It was all over her laziness and having to be responsible for her actions.

Jack said...

Some of us agree with you so much that we have panic attacks!?

tornwordo said...

That's because you're too immersed in it with your job. Traveling brings out the worst in people.

Anonymous said...

It is indeed frustrating, and I have to agree with you on all these points. Unfortunately our society has changed greatly since we were kids; there are many contributing factors to the problems you mentioned, but that, of course, does not excuse them. It is not always easy to do, but it is important to try to focus on the positive aspects that we see around us. I'm glad you had the chance to vent.

Anonymous said...

I think it is fascinating that so many in my list of daily reads have been touching on this topic in the past week... seems like we're all on the same wavelength!

(or I've unintentionally been broadcasting my thoughts too far :) )

What I miss most of all is common courtesy and manners. Etiquette is sorely lacking.

I think with the rise of the reality-based genre on television, obnoxious behaviour has become celebrated not discouraged.

It's no wonder people look shocked when I thank them for their assistance lately. Or they seem genuinely surprised when I smile at them. Or the look of disbelief when I let them in on the road.

When I have discussed this on my blog recently, I was surprised at the response.

Maybe it's time to spread the infection of manners and kindness, whaddayathink?

D-Man said...

Um, not to lighten the mood or anything, but you are completely hot in that picture. I want to just cuddle you in my arms and make it all better.

We all go through cycles. When we are at our lowest, cynical, bitter worst, we'll experience something that causes an attitude adjustment and allows us to see things anew and from a different perspective. You've seen me at my worst, Lewis, and know I speak from experience.

Someone as beautiful as you can not help but get mired down in all the crap that's out there (unless you're Rhonda, but she's the one exception...)

But, someone as beautiful a you also can't help but eventually see through the ugliness enough to again taste and enjoy the bittersweet fruit of this crazy existance.

Until then, vent and let it all out. Squeeze the puss from the sore, then it will heal.

Steven said...

This post reminds me of your comment made at my blog about "Heading off the Yellow Brick Road." You went off similarly to this post you have blogged. Societal ills are more and more apparent. Yet at the same time I have to tell myself to step back. It's almost as if I'm saying, "Hey I couldn't do that, so you can't either." I still remember what Irish Spring TASTES like. Irish Spring is the brussels sprouts of soap when it comes to taste. ;-)

Robert said...

That's a long ass list Lewis! :-)

It does take a whole lot to make up this world, whether ugly or beautiful, sinister or everlasting. We love, we hate, we cry and we get angry... But no matter, there's a special place for every little thing that's happening.

Every thing is exactly as they are.

Have a fantastic weekend Lewis! You hottie you!

Rick Rockhill said...

Well yes, I always make a point of doing the please and thank yous, holding doors and generally just maintaining chivilry in our society. Alas, that needs to be taught to youngsters and the parents ain't doin it!

Unknown said...

Not only do I see it in the guests that come to our parks but I also see it in the kids that work with me. If they could sit at home and get paid, that would work for them. We get many "CP"s at work (college program). Two or three times a year they come to work for us and learn how it really is in the big nasty world. Some of them are great and truly love the chance to work for us and put it on their resume... but about 90% of them don't want to work.

In addition to the CPs, we have the full time divas who all think they are better than everyone else. Each night a cleaning crew comes thru our area to clean so each morning the place is clean. As the day goes on, all of these kids trash the place. Used cups, soda can and bottles, food, towels, costume pieces, make-up, magazines, etc are all left right where they were used or just throw on the floor for "someone else" to pick up. By the end of the day, it looks like a bomb went off in the breakroom! Do they live like this?? Some of us older castmembers make a point by taking all of the costume pieces that they don't bring back to costuming and start making a pile in the middle of the room. After a while, it starts to really grow and guess what?... after a week or so, the kids start missing costume pieces. There are only so many made of each piece so suddenly, they realize that the piece they need is still sitting in that pile because they did not bring it back to be washed. Duh... They just do not get it.

I could write about this for days but I won't... thank god... but this is a big topic for me. I really need to write a book about all of the stupid guest tricks that we see each day.

Hugs to you and pick up that trash!

TJ said...

I hear ya!

bardelf said...

YES!
I would bet that Miss Manners (Judith Martin) feels even more frustrated than we do. It saddens me tremendously to see common courtesy and good manners quickly vanishing in America.

And, yet, I wonder if we are becoming our parents and grandparents when we complain about all of these things. The times they are a'changin'.

Nice post and lovely photo.

savante said...

Sometimes we all need that break from everyone after all.

S said...

Do I get tired of those things? Not when I do 'em. (ha ha)

Ur-spo said...

I've been away for awhile, but wanted to put my two bits in.
CS Lewis wrote once it is so hard for humans to persevere, the daily routine of their lives and what they have to endure wears them out through attrition; it makes excellent grounds for going into despair.
so hang in there.
don't let the bums get to you.

T-Bird said...

Slow down, lay on some grassy patch somewhere, and watch a few clouds drift as you make up stories about what each passing cloud formation most resembles. That is my tonic for fatigue.

Matt said...

I agree, it is exhausting sometimes to observe the lack of decency that people exhibit. Travelling seems to make it all glaringly obvious ... on my trip last week I often had my mouth hanging open staring at people in the service sector, thinking "Did you REALLY just let that come out of your mouth???"

But persevere, and keep acting the way you were brought up to. It's the only defense.

Anonymous said...

I have to agree with the post just it seems all the rest of your visitors do. It gets friggin annoying the senselessness of each other's cruelty to one another, and of course I'm no better than anyone else in that regard. Though I TRY to be kind and courteous even to those that annoy me, unfortunately I humbly admit I can't help but bring out a can of whoop-ass when I've had enough. LOL

dpaste said...

Whatever happened to Please may I
And Yes thank you
And How charming?
Now every son of a bitch
Is a snake in the grass
Whatever happened to class?

Anonymous said...

WOW! I often wondered if anyone else felt this way...