Although my honey ran across this waaayyy back at the beginning of this year, I just found it again and am continually reminded of its virtues and importance in my life. I think it's a lesson that keeps on giving.
How To Stay Miserable
**Complain about the unfairness of it all. (This should not have happened. How can anyone do such a thing?")
**Organize your life around the event, trauma, or injustice. Make it a central theme in your life. Talk about nothing else. Bore your friends.
**Remain bitter and unforgiving.
**Become a victim. Give up power to take responsibility and control over your own life.
**Play the scene over and over in your mind. Keep thinking what you should have done or what you should have said.
How To Move On
**Talk about it. Don't believe that if you keep it inside it wont bother you.
**Forgive those involved. Forgiving does not condone what someone else did, it simply releases us from the pain of their actions.
**Make a place for the event in your life and then put it in its place. It's important to remember that it did happen and it did affect you. At the same time, its place is in the past, much like a chapter in a book you have read and choose not to read again.
13 comments:
OMG!!! I know a couple of people
like that! I worked with them.
I think they're still bitter and
in need of a good lay!
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!
It's something we should remind ourselves of frequently. Thanks for sharing!
Very true, and it also demonstrates that staying miserable is a LOT more work than moving on.
if I can add to the list -
Put all your energies into the past.
Don't move on until you know clearly why something happened.
Make it a rule that if justice is not 100% done than you won't move on.
Speak you wounds; and extract power from them.
Wise words indeed. It's sometimes hard to see out when you're swirling in the vortex though.
Thank you for putting this out there. Excellent daily reminder for us all! I have a few folks to share this with...
Excellent! Thanks Lewis!
Great advice. I know people in both camps, unfortunately. I prefer the 'just get on with it' kind...
You lost me after the first five items.
A good reminder!
Mark :-)
I'll be adding that to my toolbox. Thanks!
Very too! It can be wasy for one to play hard done by .....
How very true those lists are.
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