After moving to a nursing care facility yesterday afternoon, my father in law passed away this morning -- within the last hour. I will be back with you later with more of my good memories and thoughts. Suffice it to say that your comments and emails have meant the world. Off to a busy day now........
the transition is complete. No more feeding tube, oxygen, struggle.
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In the previous post you mention that your father in law just wanted to be comfortable, that he's has a good life, and that you're both realists, so I feel I can say this to you: at least he's comfortable now.
People who have never been in a similar situation find it hard to grasp, but at times, death can be a welcome visitor.
That doesn't mean you grieve less, or loved the deceased less. It just means you're less selfish and want what's best for your loved one, which is peace and the absence of discomfort and pain.
I'm sorry for your loss.
i've had the honor of spending time with this wonderful man over the past few years. he was definitely one of the most interesting people i've had the pleasure of visiting with. i felt welcome and comfortable in their home. i remember the last time i saw him was at a gathering at arnie and steven's, where he spent much of the time in a soft chair in the living room. even at this, his presence resounded throughout the party, and you could always count on some meaningful conversation. oh, then there was the 'Olive Garden' lunch, where we laughed so hard i thought i'd have to change underclothes! what a wonderful man who left an OUTSTANDING legacy in three beautiful sons and life-mate. we will dearly miss him, which is human and natural, although that is eased somewhat by the knowledge that he is now (and forevermore) FREE from pain, tears, suffering, and clothes that fit too tight. love you, kim.
My condolences to you and your hubby and the family at this time. My love and kind thoughts to you always! XO
My sincere prayers go out to you and to your husband. As you journey through the next days, may kind and happy memories bring much comfort and consolation.
My deepest sympathy to you and Blair. Words fail at such a time...
So sorry for your loss. You've written about all this so beautifully though, it is a wonderful testament to your father-in-law and the love and respect you have for him. I wish for strength for you and your family during this time.
My thoughts are with you both... take care.
For Blair, you and the family our condolences.
We choose not our beginning, we choose not our end.
But in the moments between, we choose who we are.
And by this we remember you.
Mourne fully a life well lived and in so doing honour the memories that will comfort.
I am so sorry for your lost. Please extend our condolences to your sweetie.
Take care of each other K? Talk to you soon.
Love yah,
Lila
sincere condolences to you and Blair and his family during this time of loss and transition. our thoughts of love and peace are with you!
So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. ((((((Lewis))))))
I'm so sorry to hear it. But as you say in the title of the post, it's a transition... no more suffering.
My love goes out to you guys.
Hugs
I'm sorry for your loss, and so glad you all got to spend so much time together.
Oh Lewis, so sorry. Both of you go gently now.
Thinking of you. x
He is free and you have wonderful memories to celebrate his life with.
Take some time for yourself and breathe. A very big bear hug to you, my friend.
You know the pain is gone and he is in a better place. You also know that he loved you and his son and vice versa. Now it's time to grieve a little but to celibrate a lot that which was his life. Take care..(((HUGS)))
Hey! Just got back to UK and checked your blog. Lewis, I'm so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you both at this time. Lots of love xx
Our feelings of sadness have been somewhat muted by the power of peaceful relief. Please take care of one another. Your friends over on 75th are thinking of you...
I'm sorry to hear about your Father in Law. But you're right: no more feeding tube or struggle or help breathing. He's moved on to someplace better.
(((HUGS)))
Oh, sweetheart, I am so sorry. We all grieve for your loss, Lewis and Blair. I'm praying for you.
I'm sorry to read this, but he is no longer in pain or discomfort. My thoughts are with you and your husband.
"No more feeding tube, oxygen, struggle."
Yes, that is the way I choose to think of it when someone who's been suffering transitions to freedom.
Special thoughts to you and hubby.
Mark :-)
my sympathies on your loss.
{{{{{hugs}}}}} to you and hubby.
I am so sorry to hear of your families loss. How nice it is that you spent time with him recently. My thoughts are with you Lewis.
love never dies....our thoughts are with you
It's amazing how people know when it's their time.
Our sincere condolences to you and your husband and your families. May the happy memories of your father-in-law support you through your grieving. *hugs*
So sorry to hear your father in law passed away. I know it's been tough lately. My sympathies are with you and Blair.
My condolences to Stephen on the loss of his father and to you as well. And, well put Franck!
Sending lots and lots of hugs to you and hubby.
Sorry for your loss... our prayers are with you all.
Sorry to hear of your loss. He lived a good life, your last post talked of that. Our thoughts are with you and the family.
Godspeed. My best to you and yours, Lewis.
So sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your husbands family.
Good luck to him, and my thoughts go in your direction.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. He lives on in your memories.
My deepest sympathy to you both. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Condolences to you and your partner, family and friends.
My thoughts are with you and your
family....
HUGS!!!!
My thoughts are with you and yours, my friend.
I'm so sorry, and you are all in my thoughts. Sometimes this transition happens for the best. I do believe this is the case ... no suffering, no more worry. I trust you understand how I mean that, for you and all the family as well as for him.
May peace surround you in your grief. For you, Blair, and all those who love this special man, I send my thoughts and prayers.
Oh.
:(
He was a looker in his youth too.
You have inspired me. Mainly with your tender hearted story of your father in law, but also with your lovely photo today.
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