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Saturday, March 20, 2010

Never Thought I'd Be

Never thought I'd be the guy whining, moaning and retching on and on about not having the motivation to get to the gym. But, clearly, I am that guy. What in the world is it that provides some people with the built-in, intrinsic, motivation to get there every single day of their GD lives? While others will never see the inside of one. And others relegate themselves to a life of mediocrity somewhere in the middle. I enjoy it. I hate going. I love it. I don't want to go. God, I'm a wishy-washy freak. One thing is that my work life is nothing but structured, most of it down to the precise minute, while at work. Always on time, wearing a watch, cannot be late, etc. And that makes me far more protective of my down time and days off. I refuse to have them structured or so chucker block full of activities that I can't even enjoy my free time. I refuse. Who knows about the internal, hard-wired motivation, or lack thereof?

It reached 72 degrees in our car this afternoon. That's the highest for this year so far. A perfectly amazing first day of Spring! And, here in Portland at least, people sort of go nuts on days like this. I mean, the flip flops and shorts are out, shirts are off, ice cream joints have lines out the door, and even the drivers seem to be focusing on everything except their driving.

I will be in Albany, New York, from April 5-12. I've got some plans for visiting with several friends there. If you're in the area, my buddies Don and George have graciously agreed to host a big old get-together beginning at 3pm on Saturday, April 10, at their home in Westerlo, NY. You are invited.....Be there or be square!

My mind has been a little bugged lately about the weirdness of the relationship with a couple of friends. We work together. We used to be friends on Facebook. In his words, we're now simply "Casual Acquaintances. But it just hasn't been the same. Nothing really happened......no particular fight or event or disagreement. I see the guy at work and always say hi. But the other day, I stuck my hand out to shake his and say hi and he walked right on by. Cold. Chilly. Brr. I hate those sorts of things. On the other hand, I really must say that I am not indebted to any relationship that requires me to be a certain way, or say certain things, or be in certain activities, or or or or....... I am simply much more casual than that and life is far too short to walk on eggshells. I just have no idea what happened. And that sucks.

14 comments:

Tony (LT) said...

I think the gym thing is about how much of a rut it can be. The same exercises the same way, over and over. I consider myself pretty fit, but I still am not a big fan of the gym. I much prefer staying in shape by playing sports rather than swinging metal discs around. Even if you play the same sport over and over, it's always a different game. Keeps fitness more interesting.

Now, about the aquaintence, that sort of stuff just pisses me off and makes me lose respect for people. Not the defriending part. Big deal. It's that he is a co-worker and doesn't have the class to be polite despite whatever the differences are. (Which can't be much if you can't figure out what it is.) People don't have common courtesy anymore and it just bugs me.

Dave2 said...

I was defriended a while back but didn't realize it until recently. I wasn't so much upset as I was surprised, and fired off an email to find out what was going on. Had I done something wrong? Never got a reply, but eventually found out fourth-hand that the reason for the defriending was because I was friends with somebody else they didn't like.

I had thought we would have outgrown this kind of crap in high school, but apparently some things never change.

Rick said...

We were basking in the 70s here too. This week a bit cooler though.

Friend/acquaintance sounds like an ass.

I can't motivate myself to get to the gym like that either. I hear ya with the need for no structure on days off.

Java said...

Re: the "friend", two words: drama queen. Flush and forget it. IMHO. Don't know about you, but I'm too old for that kind of sh!t.

Lemuel said...

That's part of the whole "I don't understand the Facebook thing" for me. It reminds me way too much of grammar school and junior hi.

Ur-spo said...

I too wish I had some motivation, but if it were not necessary no way would I bother.

I solve the gym thing by paying somebody to train me; I feel obliged to go/accountable to someone else.

annie said...

i think you're right where you need to be in reference to the gym.

there's a saying in that group i go to....."what others think of me is none of my business". ouch! i hate it, and always wanna know WHY or WHAT i did. the reality is that it's their sh*t, has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with me.

Birdie said...

Gym? What is this thing of which you speak?

I have lost an online friend due to passive/aggressive behavior similar to what you describe. As much as I truly enjoyed his friendship, I will not be held hostage to manipulative tactics. The ball is in his court, and meanwhile I will move on. Life is too short.

Stephen said...

It takes me about 6 weeks to make GYM-ing a habit & about 3 days for it to start drifting away & then the next thing you know, I am eating donuts & watching aerobics on TV. I have been a really good boy of late (its getting into that tiny red dress that motivates me).

WAT said...

I am with u. HATE having to go to the gym, but once I was there a while and done, felt so good for having done it. And I hate dealing with some of the parking issues, but this is L.A. so what do u people know? LOL!

I have only defriended one person on FB. The guy I was very much into recently. But he keeps adding me back. The fool. He's a narcissist, but whatever.

TOY COUTURE said...

I just started the gym this week and I DREAD..going every morning...I totally understand where you're coming from

Bridgeout said...

YES! Life is too short to walk on eggshells... or to tread a rut to the gym if that is not your head-space at that time. I ebb and flow through the years (decades) as far as what actually works...

Jacob said...

Oh man, wish I was available on the 10th - it's my recital day so I can't come down (I'm only a couple hours from Albany). Have a blast though!

A Lewis said...

Jacob! Email me (alewispdx@gmail.com). I'm there all week long if you have any other free time. And if something happens that your recital cancels or time changes, definitely email me.